“A good marriage is one that allows change and growth in people and the way they express their love.” – Perla x Buck
When two people get married, it means that they are very committed. This means that they must stay together despite illness and health, for the richest and poorest alike, until death does separate us. Being in a marital relationship is a sign that your deep, romantic love for one another is full. However, their love for each other is tested over time. First, there will be the adjustment period. All couples go through this. There is an old saying that you only know a person if you both live under the same roof.
Daily life routine brings unrealistic expectations. Marital disappointment appears and is expressed shortly after the honeymoon fever has passed. This is when blemishes can be seen. Shortcomings can be overestimated. Some strange behaviors that previously seemed “cute” to you are now annoying. Regardless of your problems as a couple, you have to deal with relationships with your relatives, financial problems, and some conflicts that have become a cause of stress and anxiety.
When negative feelings and actions prevail, it becomes the perfect recipe for marital discord. Unless you become aware of your harmful attitudes or actions, you likely won’t do anything about it. Marriage is the acceptance of who this person really is. We just need to exercise self-control and learn not to have too many expectations.
The following tips will show you how to regain “enthusiasm” in your married life:
Tips for returning romance to your marriage
1. Understanding – we all need reassurance. Reinforce this by showing affection – a simple compliment, hug, or kiss will do the trick. We must learn to communicate our feelings to our partner. Don’t be defensive. When you have a small quarrel … say “I’m sorry.” And I really mean it. The sooner you do this, the faster your partner will stop resentful of you.
2. Learn to Accept – All marriages go through some hurdles. It turns out that the person she married is not the “angel” she imagined or the “knight in the shining armor.” True love requires a lot of patience. So overcome your fantasies about what or how your partner should be. Instead, focus on yourself and start making the necessary changes to improve your identity as a spouse.
3. Middle Encounter – In every situation, especially when you get to the point where you get angry, hurt, and frustrated, you have to learn to find the middle path. In other words, you must know how to compromise or negotiate. No two humans are exactly the same. So resolve your differences and learn to forgive yourself immediately. Don’t let the sun go down without you and your partner finding a solution.
4. Rehabilitation – How to renew and fix a troubled marriage? Restore love and intimacy. Work on it. Work on your marriage. Like life .. Marriage is not a bed of roses. You have to find a solution with your partner by investing time, love, money, and caring for each other. Restore closeness through honesty, non-argumentation, and non-judgment. Being happy together brings you good mental and physical health.
Yes, you and your partner need to stay up to date with everything, and be responsible for keeping the romance alive, and letting your marriage flourish the way it should.